By Katie Rasmussen
If I could take one piece of advice that was given to me and pass it along to every parent out there it would be that the language you choose can bring peace to your home or it can ignite control battles. By that I mean two sentences that essentially sound the same can have completely different affects/outcomes. Read these two examples; "Please sit down. We're going to eat now" and "we will eat as soon as you are seated." Does one sound better? Which do you think will have the more positive result? In the first sentence, "please" was used, and the parent was asking the child to do something politely. However, the first example is a directive, and when children are given directives they tend to challenge more, causing control battles to occur.
In the second sentence the parent is putting the desired action to be taken on the child, they know as soon as they sit down, they get to eat. This is the beauty of Love & Logic, an educational philosophy developed by Foster Cline, MD and Jim Fay, to teach children responsibility and independence in a peaceful, fearless manner.
When a statement is said like "clean your room so we can go shopping," a child will contemplate that and feel a little defensive because they are being told to do something. Whether it's a good or bad option, they still have to choose if they like what's being presented how they are going to respond. Another option would be to say something like "I am happy to take you chopping as soon as you clean your room." The child hears an option that sounds more positive because the word "happy" was used, and she is more inclined to get moving and clean that room.
Now play out that situation a bit and imagine the child starts cleaning, but gets distracted by some drawings they found. She decides to sit down and create more artwork, an hour goes by. The child remembers going shopping and now the store closes in 15 minutes. She says "Mom! We gotta go now, the store is closing!" Mom has a few options here, a triggered response might sound like, "I told you as soon as you clean your room we'd go, but your room isn't clean, is it?" When a kid hears those first 3 words of "I told you..." she flips into defensive mode and might start the "but, but, but" scheme, which could initiate a long battle with mom. A more successful approach for mom might be to say "I am happy to take you shopping when your room is clean, if the store is closed when your room is clean, we can go tomorrow." It's matter of fact, nothing changed from what she said the first time, and it puts the responsibility on the child. It should now be very clear that mom will be HAPPY to go shopping when the room is clean.
I encourage all parents to read Parenting With Love & Logic just to learn the buzz words and practice the language if for no other reason. Love & Logic can change your home and bring peace to a place where battles once existed.
Please check out http://www.loveandlogic.com to learn more.
Katie Rasmussen is a writer for http://www.fitmom3.com
She is a mother of 3 boys who struggled with weight and fitness and has found support through friends. After completing 4 marathons, 3 1/2 marathons, 2 1/2 Ironmans, 6 triathlons, and 1 century bike ride, Katie is committed to helping other moms believe in themselves and find the strength within to be a fit mom!
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10/31/2008
10/22/2008
Hey Kids - He Was a Man, a Very Big Man - Meet Daniel Boone Become a Fan
By Lance Winslow
Everybody knows the story of Daniel Boone, except our children and yet, this story of Daniel Boone is more important to children than anything else. As a parent it makes sense to teach kids the story of Daniel Boone and let them draw their own conclusions. The story of Daniel Boone builds a strength of character, self esteem and a sense of nature that is instilled in everyone who reads it.
Of course, children cannot read yet, but if you buy a children's book that you can read to them that has good illustrations you will be well on your way to explaining the wonderful leadership skills and character of Daniel Boone, who leads a good life by example. It is for this reason that I would certainly like to recommend a very good book to you to read to your children;
"Daniel Boone" by Katherine E. Wilkie, illustrated by Don Sibley; Scholastic Publishers, New York, NY; Date: 1961 So now then, let me take a minute to talk with you about what I liked most about this book:
This book opens up dialog between parents and children and for the inquisitive child who is interested in learning; they will spend hours of discussion about the topic of Daniel Boone. It makes sense to have a Daniel Boone book in your children's room, as they learn how to read and this should reinforce their personal character and levels of integrity, something that is missing in our society, but something that Daniel Boone was all about. Will you buy this children's book for your kids today? Think about it.
Lance Winslow - Lance Winslow's Bio. If you have innovative thoughts and unique perspectives, come think with Lance; http://www.WorldThinkTank.net/.
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Everybody knows the story of Daniel Boone, except our children and yet, this story of Daniel Boone is more important to children than anything else. As a parent it makes sense to teach kids the story of Daniel Boone and let them draw their own conclusions. The story of Daniel Boone builds a strength of character, self esteem and a sense of nature that is instilled in everyone who reads it.
Of course, children cannot read yet, but if you buy a children's book that you can read to them that has good illustrations you will be well on your way to explaining the wonderful leadership skills and character of Daniel Boone, who leads a good life by example. It is for this reason that I would certainly like to recommend a very good book to you to read to your children;
"Daniel Boone" by Katherine E. Wilkie, illustrated by Don Sibley; Scholastic Publishers, New York, NY; Date: 1961 So now then, let me take a minute to talk with you about what I liked most about this book:
This book opens up dialog between parents and children and for the inquisitive child who is interested in learning; they will spend hours of discussion about the topic of Daniel Boone. It makes sense to have a Daniel Boone book in your children's room, as they learn how to read and this should reinforce their personal character and levels of integrity, something that is missing in our society, but something that Daniel Boone was all about. Will you buy this children's book for your kids today? Think about it.
Lance Winslow - Lance Winslow's Bio. If you have innovative thoughts and unique perspectives, come think with Lance; http://www.WorldThinkTank.net/.
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10/14/2008
Rare Book
By Gordon Petten
A rare book is an unusual, old book that is classified as valuable due to its unique qualities in content and structure. A collection of unique materials constitutes this kind of book since its contents may never be found elsewhere in archives or libraries. A book can be desirable to an individual private collector but may fail to appease a university or college. Many people currently engage in the activity of collecting rare books for monetary value. Nevertheless, there are agencies responsible for the preservation of unique collections of academic materials considered unique and exceptional. The resources include literature, scientific and exceptional academic materials. Such books are often transferred to secure places where readers can access them without taking copies with them for the sake of copyright protection.
The criteria of classifying a rare book is often the age. Different regions have customary traditions upon which a book is judged to appear. Experts recommend that it is important to assess the dates based on the relevance of the materials and their application in a specific period. For instance, nineteenth century material may not have appealed to students or readers a century ago. The trends change and contents of books undergo transformation as well, but the way in which a material of antiquity remains unique is the facts that are not prone to changes. Rare books have the basic facts that do not change even after a long period. The style of presentation makes a book qualify as either rare or obsolete. Readers usually perceive secondary and primary thoughts presented in written material differently. Consequently, the materials with comprehensive information on topical issues are classified as rare - for preservation, for use by future generations.
In an academic setting, the sole purpose of a rare book is to create a unique site for antiquated collections that enhance reference resources in an institution. This implies that such research materials support complex research for graduates and other faculty levels. It is a common expectation that reputable university libraries have archives with unique study materials for in-depth research based on particular books. The collections of such rare materials have information that was once extensively used by former faculty members. It is therefore important to ensure that an academic institution reserves rare books to allow students to gain deep knowledge from search materials. This can be achieved by rating a rare book according to its relevance and subjects it covers. Academicians have the responsibility of identifying rare materials within their areas of specialization in order to boost the reserves of rare books.
Generally, materials dating from early 1830s qualify as rare books for collection. However, many books dating before this period are equally significant. Many people classify rare or ancient books based on the introduction of printing in particular geographic areas. There is an increasing concern for the publications made in the 19th century, to maintain the original catalogues and original binding to make them valuable for research. Rare resources convey a history of thoughts transmitted to posterity.
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A rare book is an unusual, old book that is classified as valuable due to its unique qualities in content and structure. A collection of unique materials constitutes this kind of book since its contents may never be found elsewhere in archives or libraries. A book can be desirable to an individual private collector but may fail to appease a university or college. Many people currently engage in the activity of collecting rare books for monetary value. Nevertheless, there are agencies responsible for the preservation of unique collections of academic materials considered unique and exceptional. The resources include literature, scientific and exceptional academic materials. Such books are often transferred to secure places where readers can access them without taking copies with them for the sake of copyright protection.
The criteria of classifying a rare book is often the age. Different regions have customary traditions upon which a book is judged to appear. Experts recommend that it is important to assess the dates based on the relevance of the materials and their application in a specific period. For instance, nineteenth century material may not have appealed to students or readers a century ago. The trends change and contents of books undergo transformation as well, but the way in which a material of antiquity remains unique is the facts that are not prone to changes. Rare books have the basic facts that do not change even after a long period. The style of presentation makes a book qualify as either rare or obsolete. Readers usually perceive secondary and primary thoughts presented in written material differently. Consequently, the materials with comprehensive information on topical issues are classified as rare - for preservation, for use by future generations.
In an academic setting, the sole purpose of a rare book is to create a unique site for antiquated collections that enhance reference resources in an institution. This implies that such research materials support complex research for graduates and other faculty levels. It is a common expectation that reputable university libraries have archives with unique study materials for in-depth research based on particular books. The collections of such rare materials have information that was once extensively used by former faculty members. It is therefore important to ensure that an academic institution reserves rare books to allow students to gain deep knowledge from search materials. This can be achieved by rating a rare book according to its relevance and subjects it covers. Academicians have the responsibility of identifying rare materials within their areas of specialization in order to boost the reserves of rare books.
Generally, materials dating from early 1830s qualify as rare books for collection. However, many books dating before this period are equally significant. Many people classify rare or ancient books based on the introduction of printing in particular geographic areas. There is an increasing concern for the publications made in the 19th century, to maintain the original catalogues and original binding to make them valuable for research. Rare resources convey a history of thoughts transmitted to posterity.
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